So tired of DH's attitude - can anyone relate?

TheShellSeeker

We have this crazy schedule where DH & I skew our work days so that DS can stay out of daycare (he has a heart condition so he needs to stay healthy).  DH's days to watch DS solo is Th and F and I take M-W.  We have no family around so it's just DH & me who takes care of our son.

9 days out of 10, by the end of Th and F, DH is in this p*ssy crappy mood.  I know it's hard - it's hard for me when I'm the only one taking care of DS on M-W.  DS has reflux and spits up volumes of milk.  It's exhausting cleaning up everything only to have to do it again 5 minutes later.  But DH's attitude makes it 1000 times worse.  He kept cursing earlier because DS spit up while he was feeding him.  (He wasn't cursing at DS - but it still makes me unhappy)

I'm just so sick of DH's crappy attitude.  When I ask what's wrong he just says that he's unhappy and tired of doing all this.  Yeah, well I'm tired too but I'm not walking around the house p*ssed off at the world.   It seems like the only thing DH wants to do anymore is play on his computer. 

I'm just tired of his crap.  I've tried to talk to him before about it and he'll be better for a few days but then he just goes back into the same old attitude.  He totally doesn't appreciate the family that he has.

Ok.  Vent over.  I may DD this later - fyi.

 

 

ABC-123

Hugs!  I am so sorry that you guys are having issues.  I also have some issues with DH's attitude regarding sleep.  I got up exclusively with DS for 6 months (before he STTN).  Well, recently DH has been getting up to help and he is B!TCHING nonstop about being tired, etc.  Hello!?!!?  I did this for 6 months with no help.  Suck it up. 

I really don't know what to say to help...  Just know that you aren't alone.  The only thing that helps us is when DS STTN, however, that really isn't solving the issue.

pamela-matt

I am so very sorry. ?(((HUGS)))

skoorbnibor

I don't have much advice, but to tell you that maybe it will get better the older your LO gets... Infants are really hard, reflux is tough and I think we are better conditioned for it then men. It might be sexist, but I find it true. My husband, luckily has always been willing to do his share, and actually has always enjoyed time with E, but recently he REALLY wants to spend time with him, as we see his personality develop and Ethan is much more interactive. Maybe your husband will do better as time passes.

I am so sorry you are going through this...

JGirl2005

I can relate.  I just posted my DH story.  hahaha

sorry you are dealing with this, but my DH is the same way - he broods.

remind him why you are doing this (heart condition, no family) and see if there are other alternatives for you to explore.  good luck!

tnkrbl21

I dont have any experience with this kind of thing, but just wanted to suggest that maybe you DH and DS can spend a day together doing something "fun".  Maybe planning a family day out might help DH gain some perspective on why he is doing this - I know he shouldnt "need" it but it is a lot of hard work and quality time with you and his son might help him appreciate it all a little more.